Top 10 Things To Say To Your Girlfriend When She Is Mad At You

When your girlfriend is upset or angry with you, knowing the right things to say can make a significant difference in resolving conflicts and strengthening your bond. Here are some helpful phrases to navigate those moments when she’s mad at you.

There’s a good chance you haven’t the slightest clue as to why your girlfriend is mad at you. It happens; we women aren’t exactly the most forthcoming group of people, which can put a strain on any relationship.

Common little fights and relationships seem to go hand-in-hand because that is how inevitable issues get solved. More often than not, your girl just wants you to say the right things when she gets mad at you.

If there’s one thing I’ve learned, it’s that the right words do not always come when you need them. Therefore, here is a post to help you out on things to say to your girlfriend when she is mad at you.

1. Say you’re sorry

The best way I know to calm an angry woman down is to make her feel heard and understood, then follow up with a sincere apology. Understand that even if she’s reluctant to tell you what you did, it’s probably because she expects you to know. When she does open up, listen carefully so you can see it from her point of view, then reply with a “You’re right, I’m sorry.”

2. “I don’t enjoy making you mad, but you’re just so hot when you are.”

Women love men who can make them smile when they’re raging mad, so being lighthearted or goofy about it is one way to go. The compliment makes the statement even twice as charming and therefore, more likely to work. If she doesn’t smile or soften a little after hearing it, then chances are whatever she’s mad about is pretty serious.

3. “Come back to me.”

One of the things to say to your girlfriend when she’s mad is that you miss her, but say it with a touch of alpha. If your girlfriend loves you for being a ‘macho man,’ she may not appreciate you groveling at her feet at the slightest hint of an attitude. So use that voice you know she can’t resist and tell her to quit it without being condescending.

4. “I hate fighting with you, what do I have to do to make it stop?”

If you’re lucky, your fight may end in a rather memorable make-up evening after saying something like that. You can take the initiative and get her some flowers or whatever else she likes and put your message on the card. You’re in the relationship with her, so you’ll know best what to get to make things better.


5. “I’m sorry I hurt you. Should I come over so you can spank me?”

She’d probably lighten up when she sees a message like this; every relationship should have witty lines or jokes that would make the other party smile. Women don’t have a monopoly on using playfulness to get out of a bind in a relationship. It’s even cuter when guys do it, so give it a try if you haven’t yet.

6. “Every minute you’ve been angry with me is one minute better spent doing [her favorite thing].”

The idea is to diffuse the situation with humor, so let your body language also communicate that. If you’re sending a text, you can use emojis to convey your message, so she doesn’t misunderstand it as you scolding her for being mad at you.


7. “I don’t know who first said ‘do not let the sun set on your anger,’ but I totally agree with them. Don’t you?”

If your girlfriend is religious, she may appreciate you bringing something out of the holy books. You might even back it up with a passage from it to impress her the more. Notwithstanding, this can work for non-religious people as well because, at the end of the day, the message remains that you want her to forgive you.

8. “For my sake, I hope you’re as forgiving as you’re pretty.”

An apology doesn’t always have to come in the default, “I’m sorry, please forgive me” style. Sometimes, spice it up with a little bit of wit and remember what I said above about compliments in a relationship.

Use this when you forget to call her, show up late, or commit an offense that makes her mad. You might need more than your wits to get out of more severe issues in the relationship though.

9. “Are you still sulking?”

It’s a direct question, but it can be so ridiculously obvious sometimes that your girlfriend might not be able to help but smile. Like if she’s all passive-aggressive with the silent treatment being almost palpable, she obviously still is.

The good thing is, if she’s already calm enough to talk about it, that one line may be all it takes for her to open up. If you get a response like “I’m not sulking, I just think…” you’re in

10. “I recognize you’re hurt, so take all the time you need, and I’ll be here when you can stand me again.”

Sometimes all she wants is for you to give her some space but on her own terms. This is why it’s crucial to lead with the fact you’re leaving because you understand your presence is doing more harm than good right now.

Otherwise, she might feel like you’re abandoning her because you don’t want to deal with the matter on ground. Give it some hours, at least before you reach out again, maybe to say good morning or good night, and she’d likely be more receptive to you then.


When your girlfriend is mad at you, knowing how to communicate effectively can help resolve conflicts and strengthen your relationship. By acknowledging her feelings, apologizing sincerely, and expressing your love and commitment, you can navigate difficult situations with grace and understanding.


1. What if my girlfriend doesn’t want to talk when she’s mad?

Give her space and let her know you’re there for her whenever she’s ready to talk. Respect her boundaries and avoid pressuring her to communicate before she’s ready.

2. Is it important to apologize even if I don’t think I did anything wrong?

Yes, apologizing doesn’t always mean admitting fault. It can show empathy and a desire to repair the relationship, even if you disagree on who’s at fault.

3. How can I prevent conflicts with my girlfriend in the future?

Communication and understanding are key. Listen actively, express your feelings openly, and be willing to compromise to avoid future conflicts.

4. What if my girlfriend’s anger is justified?

Acknowledge her feelings, apologize sincerely, and work together to find a solution. Showing empathy and taking responsibility can help repair the trust and strengthen your bond.

5. How can I show my girlfriend that I appreciate her during conflicts?

Express gratitude for her patience, understanding, and willingness to work through issues together. Small gestures of appreciation can go a long way in diffusing tension and strengthening your relationship.

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