“And if a house be divided against itself, that house cannot stand ” Mark 3.25
Families are the bedrock of society. When families fall apart, society falls into social and cultural decline. The plan of God for divinely instituted homes is for them to remain united in body and in spirit (Psalm 133:1).
A broken home is a family in which the parents are separated or divorced. It is also a family that is set apart due to tension and certain problems.
Unless you live in complete isolation, you have seen a broken home. It may be the family of a friend, relative or your own home. Hardly anything perplexes and discourages us more than broken homes. The Bible talks a lot about broken homes and we should, too.
*WHY ARE SO MANY HOMES BROKEN?
Many of us attribute the problem of broken homes to recent cultural shifts (the decline of religion and morality). However, the reasons so many homes are broken may include but are not limited to the following:
- Wrong choice in marriage (Proverbs 21:9,19; 19:13),
- Parental or friends influence (Genesis 2:24; Proverbs 13:20) and
- Lack of genuine sacrificial love (1John 3:16; Romans 5:7-8).
- Communication breakdown is also responsible for many broken homes today (Matthew 5:37).
- S3xual unfaithfulness to ones wife or husband has caused lots of broken homes (Hebrews 13:4; Hosea 2:2).
Others include stinginess/meanness.
- Improper money management is equally not good for any home (1 Timothy 6:10).
- Preference for a child at the expense of others (Genesis 25:28),
- Time consuming jobs are not good for the family (Psalm 127:2; Proverbs 31:14-15) and worldly pleasures (1 John 2:15).
EFFECTS AND REMEDY FOR BROKEN HOMES
Broken homes often lead to husbands abandoning their spouses and children. Wives walk out of their husband’s lives and leave children with devastated emotions. Single mothers give birth to children with no marriage and no father-image for support and guidance. What can spouses do when their partners walk out? What can children do when their parents abandon them? Here are some solutions:
1. Commit everything to God in prayer (Psalm 127:1; Psalm 50:15).
2. Stop and consider that God is greater than any difficulty (Jeremiah 32:27).
3. Embrace the fact that Jesus loves you (Romans 5:8; Matthew 11:28-30).
4. Ask God to make you a better person in the present circumstances (Psalm 51:10).
5. Seek the help of other Christians (Proverbs 11:14).
6. Leam to forgive and seek reconciliation/restoration (Ephesians 4:32; Romans 12:18; Isaiah 57:18).
7. Be patient to meet your spouse at their point of need (Ecclesiastes 7:8; 1 Corinthians 7:10).
Do your best to be the kind of spouse, parent, or child God wants you to be, but never take your eyes off of the One who actually holds your family’s future.